New research shows that individuals, who are high in self-compassion, have healthy, satisfying relationships.
Have you ever tripped in public, spilled a glass of milk, or called someone by the wrong name? How do you react? With kindness and humor or embarrassment and shame?
Self-compassionate individuals acknowledge their mistakes for what they are – a part of the human condition. People who have a lot of self-compassion acknowledge their flaws and realize that no one is perfect. When things go wrong, self-compassionate individuals do not evaluate themselves negatively; they embrace their humanity and show themselves kindness. They acknowledge negative feelings and events, but they do not dwell on them.
When it comes to love and romance, self-compassionate individuals are more accepting, warm and caring. They treat their partners with the same benevolence they grant themselves. As a result, their relationships are more intimate and satisfying. It is easy to connect with a self-compassionate individual.
Self-critical individuals, however, are not only harder on themselves, but their partners as well. Self-critical individuals are more judgmental, controlling and verbally abusive with the people they love.