New research shows that the sound of a person’s voice alone can help reveal if a person has cheated on a partner.
In this research, both men and women simply had their voices recorded while counting from 1 to 10. Half of the speakers had cheated on a partner while the other half had not. Other participants were asked to rate the voices and evaluate whether the person speaking engaged in some type of infidelity. The participants were able to more accurately identify cheaters by simply listening to the sound of a person’s voice. The research took into account a wide range of factors that may have influenced the results such as a speaker’s attractiveness, body composition, and weight. It’s not clear exactly how listeners made their judgements — it’s not clear what aspects of a person’s voice reveal the tendency to cheat. The research simply shows that the tendency to engage in infidelity is somehow conveyed through the sound of a person’s everyday voice.
Source: Hughes, S. M., & Harrison, M. A. (2017). Your Cheatin’ Voice Will Tell on You: Detection of Past Infidelity from Voice. Evolutionary psychology, 15(2), 1-12.
New research highlights the latest trends in patterns of infidelity. Here are some of the more interesting findings:
- People are more likely to cheat during the summer months
- At a minimum, it’s estimated that cheating happens in 20-25% of marriages
- Rates of infidelity are increasing the fastest among older men (thanks, Viagra).
- Infidelity is the number one reason for divorce
- Cheating is more likely for individuals who have a dismissing or anxious style of attachment
- Growing up in a house where infidelity occurred increases one’s odds of cheating
- Living together before getting married is linked to increased infidelity
- More opportunities to meet people at work increases the likelihood of cheating
Source: Fincham, F. D., & May, R. W. (2017). Infidelity in romantic relationships. Current Opinion in Psychology, 13, 70-74.
Attachment | Infidelity | Relationships
Couples don’t always see eye-to-eye. Conflict is certain to arise in every romantic relationship.
What matters the most is how couples approach and deal with conflict. Research consistently shows that one’s attachment style greatly influences how couples work through disagreements.
Partners with an anxious style of attachment are likely to:
- Experience more frequent and intense conflict in their relationships
- Blame their partners for disputes
- Engage in a more controlling style of communication (make more demands, threats, and use manipulation).
- Have difficulty letting go of issues
Partners with a dismissing style of attachment are likely to:
- Downplay the importance and frequency of conflict in their relationships
- Distance themselves from their partners
- Withdrawal from conversations, limit their involvement, and curtail the discussion
- Try to keep their feelings to themselves
Given what anxious and dismissing individuals bring to the table in terms of their approach to conflict, you can see how such a pairing leads to problems in a relationship. One person tries to escalate conflict while the other person tries to check out… and no one is happy with the outcome.
Source: Feeney, J. A., & Karantzas, G. C. (2017). Couple conflict: insights from an attachment perspective. Current Opinion in Psychology, 13, 60-64.
Attachment | Relationships
A partner’s betrayal can be a gut-wrenching, life-changing experience. Being betrayed by a partner can leave you feeling devalued and disrespected. And when your partner puts his or her needs ahead of what’s best for you or your relationship, it can also create a lot of uncertainty and confusion (“How and why did this happen to me?”).
While being betrayed can be a devastating experience, like all negative events, it also represents an opportunity for reflection and reevaluation.
A partner’s betrayal can force you to focus your attention on core principles of your relationship. Specifically, a betrayal can cause you to think about:
- Your partner’s true goals and motivations. Do you and your partner’s goals align? Do you share the same values and want the same things out of life? A partner’s betrayal can get you to focus on whether you and your partner actually share the same goals.
- How responsive your partner is to your needs and concerns. Does your partner take your perspective into account, try to make you feel understood, and show concern for how you’re feeling? A partner’s responsiveness to your distress is very telling. A betrayal can reveal just how responsive your partner is – a partner who dismisses your needs or who acts more defensive than concerned isn’t ideal.
- A partner’s betrayal can help you identify your expectations and standards. How exactly do you want and need to be treated in order to feel loved, valued, and care for? A betrayal can help you articulate exactly what you want out of your relationship.
- A partner’s betrayal can force you evaluate your relationship. Is your relationship worth the occasional pain and suffering? Does the good outweigh the bad?
While no one wants to experience a betrayal, a partner’s betrayal can motivate people to engage in a detailed evaluation of their relationship.
The core principles listed above are adapted from Finkel, E. J., Simpson, J. A., & Eastwick, P. W. (2017). The Psychology of Close Relationships: Fourteen Core Principles. Annual Review of Psychology, 68, 383-411.
New research reveals that individuals with an insecure style of attachment – individuals who have an anxious or dismissing attachment style are more likely to engage in infidelity-related behaviors online.
When it comes to online activity people who have an anxious or dismissing style of attachment are more likely to…
- Engage in intimate information sharing with others
- Keep in touch with ex-partners
- Behave in ways they try to hide from their partners
- Hide online chats from their partners
- Get angry and defensive when questioned about their online behavior
- Believe their partners would be upset if they knew the truth about their online activities
Source: McDaniel, B. T., Drouin, M., & Cravens, J. D. (2017). Do you have anything to hide? Infidelity-related behaviors on social media sites and marital satisfaction. Computers in Human Behavior, 66, 88-95.
Attachment | Infidelity | Lying | Relationships