Relationships, Infidelity and Deception Blog

Men’s viewing of pornography is harmful to a relationship

By Truth About Deception

The results of a new longitudinal study on the use of pornography and its impact on marital outcomes are not encouraging. Men who viewed pornography, especially men who viewed pornography at high levels (on a daily basis), were less satisfied with their relationships six years later.

As noted in the research, viewing pornography “was strongly and negatively related to marital quality over time, and this effect was robust to the inclusion of controls for earlier satisfaction with sex life and decision-making.”

The study also revealed that women’s’ viewing of pornography didn’t have a negative impact on relationships over the course of time.

The main takeaway? For men, viewing pornography can have a negative long-term impact on one’s relationship.

Source: Perry, S. L. (2016). Does Viewing Pornography Reduce Marital Quality Over Time? Evidence from Longitudinal Data. Archives of Sexual Behavior. In press.

 

 


Why Do People Lie?

By Truth About Deception

New cross-cultural research on the motivation underlying deception reveals that most lies are told for selfish motives. Over half of the motivations reported for engaging in deception involve advancing one’s interests at another’s expanse – such as covering up a betrayal or achieving an economic or non-economic advantage.

While people often like to think they lie to protect other’s feelings, deception is also clearly used to promote our own interests.

Source: Levine, T. R., Ali, M. V., Dean, M., Abdulla, R. A., & Garcia-Ruano, K. (2016). Toward a Pan-cultural Typology of Deception Motives. Journal of Intercultural Communication Research, 45(1), 1-12.

 


What Motivates a Partner to Confess?

By Truth About Deception

Lovers lie and sometimes they confess to doing so. What motivates a partner’s decision to come clean and tell the truth? New research shows that a confessor’s motivation isn’t always pure. One of the strongest motivations for telling the truth to a partner? The belief that the lie that was told was going to be discovered. It’s fairly clear whose interests are being served by such confessions – the person who lied in the first place.

Source: Kearns, K. D. (2016). Unsolicited confession of deception in romantic relationships (Doctoral dissertation).

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New Evidence – You Cannot Detect Deception

By Truth About Deception

New research confirms what has been known for decades. People’s ability to detect deception through body language is no better than flipping a coin. Even, gut-level reactions are no better than chance.

The only reliable way to detect deception? You have to know the truth about what the person is talking about. That’s how we catch people in their lies – we know when people aren’t telling the truth, because we already know the facts (or they eventually come to light).

Source: Franz, V. H. & von Luxburg, U. (2015). No evidence for unconscious lie detection: A significant difference does not imply accurate classification. Psychological Science 0956797615597333, first published on August 24, 2015.

 


Been Betrayed? Learning to Forgive is Critical

By Truth About Deception

It is important to forgive a partner for cheating. Forgiveness helps people feel less humiliated, less suspicious and allows individuals to put the incident into context – rather than have it define the relationship.

While forgiving a spouse is helpful, it is not easy to do. New research shows that group therapy can be very effective at helping individuals work through a betrayal. Individuals who participated in therapy after discovering infidelity developed the skills needed to actively deal with problems in their relationships and they greatly improve their outlook on life.

Source: Kazemi M.S. and Javid M.M. (2015). Effect of infidelity therapy on improving mental health of betrayed women. International Journal of Psychology and Counselling, 7(2), 24 – 28.

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